This morning I sent a voice note to an old friend of mine. I say old because, over the last few years, our friendship faded, and I’m not really sure why. The story I’ve told my Self to accept the loss of this friend is that sometimes people come into our lives for a specific reason and time, which may not be as long as we’d like.
As I’ve evolved, numerous relationships that were really important to me have evolved, and it has been much easier to see why and be at peace with the natural evolution and change in those relationships. With all of them, including the one with my friend I sent a voice note to, I know that if I ever needed anything, I could reach out to them, or if I saw them out on the street, we’d stop, hug, and chat like old times. There were no fallouts or fights (at least no events that I’m conscious of) that led to the relationships changing, just people growing and evolving in a way that led to a natural drift and fading away—a change in frequencies, if you will.
Back to the voice note…
I’ve wanted to send that voice note for years, but I never did. I’m not quite sure why, other than that I think I was afraid that I wouldn’t hear back. Or I would learn that I did, in fact, unknowingly do something or say something that led to the friendship fading—it would suck to find out that I was the reason.
But for whatever reason, after seeing some content he was in on social media, I decided to send the voice note. And the voice note wasn’t to ask what happened, but instead to let him know how much I enjoyed our friendship and the time we had together, that I missed it, and that I’m still cheering for him and following his journey, just quietly.
I doubt anything changes, but I have to say I feel much better having sent the note and letting him know how special our friendship was during that chapter of life. And I hope it is received as flowers given while the opportunity to give them is still here, rather than waiting until it’s too late, which happens far too often.
In an earlier Note this week, I wrote about the importance of the people that we surround our Selves with, and this is a follow-up to encourage you to let those currently close to you know how much you love them and to maybe reflect back on those people who were once a bigger part of your life and let them know how much they meant to you.
You never know what that could mean to the other person—and what it could do for you.
See you tomorrow and keep pursuing,
JC
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